I’m a writer and coach based in Los Angeles.
My work centers on identity and change. Not the aspirational kind. The kind people actually live through, in their bodies, over decades.
I'm interested in what people carry, what they bury, and what it takes to come back to themselves with clarity. That's what my writing is. That's where I coach from.
Coming of age in Midwest suburbia in the late 1980s and early 1990s, I grew up in a working-class family striving to project a middle-class image. Behind closed doors, addiction, control, and volatility shaped life in a fractured household.
I was the first and only out queer kid at my high school, navigating housing insecurity, bullying, and brushes with the law. A generous lesbian community offered safety and a chosen family that carried me into adulthood.
Sexuality, however, was not the only truth I needed to face.
In my early twenties, I transitioned. I stepped into manhood, Corporate America, and back into the closet.
Living as a stealth trans man for the decades that followed, I chased the white-collar dream while numbing trauma I didn't yet have the language for. Under pressure, carrying unnamed shame, lifestyle drinking became central to how I moved through the world.
A live fast, die young mentality nearly became a self-fulfilling prophecy. A midlife reckoning changed that. Recovery and honesty followed.
From the Midwest to Manhattan boardrooms and barrooms, and eventually to the Pacific coast, my life has moved across geography and identity looking for somewhere to land.
The Pacific coast is where I found home and the writing began.
My Story
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